How Do I Take Control of My Life?

The title of this article contains a misnomer

(albeit an intentional one), and that is the word: control.

For the key to taking (or taking back) control over your life

is to release control and instead direct the course of your

life.

Consider the Source, the Life Force underlying

everything, as a boundless ocean. You need to do nothing to

remain afloat in this ocean other than to stop resisting, stop

flailing about in fear of drowning, relax, and let the water

support you.

When we are still and free of resistance or - to

frame it in the positive - allowing,

we float, the water supports us. We can then choose to pause

there awhile to enjoy the experience with all our senses or

swim in the direction of a different experience.

Trying to control your life is like flailing about

in the ocean for fear of drowning. Directing the

course of your life towards the pursuit of your dreams is

like swimming.

Constantly trying to control what is already under

control is like constantly focusing on survival rather than

your dreams. You're already surviving; you mastered that skill

years ago. You mastered it, in fact, the moment they cut the

umbilical cord. Without knowing you knew how to feed your body

oxygen by breathing in and out. And you learned to cry when

you wanted something until you got it. As time passed, your

survival skill set eventually expanded to include more complex

ways of communicating your needs and eventually methods for

directly getting yours needs met yourself.

You are such a master of survival that you don't

even need to think about it to do it; you never have. So why

have you, then? Why have you devoted so very much of your time

- the majority of it, no doubt - fretting, planning, and

working so hard to get it met. It's met!

It's been met, and it's not ever going to be

un-met until the moment you die (and even then we propose that

the core of you survives, but let's stay focused on this life

in this body for now). How much longer do you really want to

spend fixating on avoiding one single moment in time (your

death) at the expense of all the others (your life)?

The shift in mindset is simple and

all-powerful: instead

of observing what is so, imagine how you want it to be, and

feel what it's like to know that it is so.

That brings us to another part of our lives over

which we so often try (with futility) to exert undue control,

and that is: our

emotions. It's a fool's errand to try to control

your emotions, not because it doesn't work (though indeed it

doesn't) but because it is completely counterproductive; it's

self-sabotage, in fact, to try and control your emotions. Why?

Because your emotions play a pivotal role in the perpetual

fulfillment of all your desires, one that runs completely

counter to the very idea of control.

Your emotions are your signals of how connected

you are to the infinitely abundant wellspring of joy and

fulfillment. Feeling

good is

a signal that you are in alignment with the steady flow of

creative Life Force; feeling

bad is a

signal that you are not.

Trying to change your emotions, then, is like

putting the proverbial cart before the horse. Feeling better

won't get you in alignment with the Source. Getting yourself

in alignment with the Source will make you feel better. An

unpleasant feeling is no more than an invitation to remember

your true essence as one with the Source of All That Is -

always supported, always surviving, always directing and

always in control.